Once upon a time, I found out that I would be a father, put all of my games and obsessions into a mental box, and studied Reiki to start teaching others similar lessons that I had been taught throughout my life in the lens of Reiki.
Then the life of a stay-at-home father HAD to become my only focus, working on starting my business at the time made my life difficult to manage and became detrimental to my mental health.
I told myself then what I still believe now, family will always come first and when I can handle the stress of work is when I will work.
I let my dreams go for a time, and it nearly killed me.
I soon realized that even working on my goals one small step at a time was better than giving it all up. Both for me, and for the spiritual forces that refused to simply let me quit.
Never again would I let myself stop dreaming of the day when I could provide for my family with my own hands and business.
Once upon a time, I raised an inclusive spiritual group of people who only wished to pursue a path of their own will in full love and light. It grew immensely from the people who joined and those who participated.
I even developed and built a blog to talk about spiritual topics, while also starting a drop-shipping business with spiritual jewelry to help scale it even higher.
Then I asked a friend I met to help mentor me to scale it, started asking for donations, and when the help dried up from life events, I was alone to work it all by myself.
I still did my best to run the drop-shipping business with all of the resources to learn and grow with what I could muster, but with all that I was trying to do and the bills I was paying for, I couldn’t afford to sustain it and keep my family. I had to let it go.
Never again would I scale my dreams past the point where I, myself could reach them.
Once upon a time, before my second child was born, I started an online church based on spiritual healing from the ground up. I did the necessary paperwork, built the doctrines, and asked people close to me to help me raise it up to be successful.
One by one, day by day, I found myself taking on more of the responsibilities I thought I would have help for.
No matter how often I asked, called, or even recruited, nobody stepped up. I only found resistance or more reasons to work alone.
Never again would I put the potential for the fate of my dreams in someone else’s hands.
Once upon a time, just after my daughter was born, I started Reiki Reverend. I built it from the ground up with everything I had left to give, and everything I had learned over time.
I knew better than to work outside of my means, and kept my growth slow. Within my limiting range of control as the children grew, but that was ok with me. I knew my best growth would happen much later, even if nobody else saw that but me. I knew I wouldn’t give this business up.
I’ve since been told many times to scale, to raise my prices to my worth. I’m a Holistic Health PhD, I’ve learned much over these years, I know my worth. I keep my prices low to help as many as possible, not just to profit.
I also respect my earlier lessons, and know what losses I could personally (mentally) afford if life circumstances keep me from service.
My family will always come first.
I’ve had many ups and downs running my business, most of the time from out of my own pockets. I know how to grow my business, I’ve even coached others to help them grow theirs, but I won’t forget my mission and earlier lessons.
I won’t forget that my children may need me before a high-ticket client, and I won’t simply ask for acceptance after payment out of mutual respect.
I’ve seen many times how I could scale my business tenfold. I’ve even written a good portion of it down for notes and helpful advice to give to my students and clients.
I’m not just here to do that though, I’m here to heal and share healing. To inspire growth that may not involve me too much at all.
In fact, I’ve seen some of my best impact by just sharing my life with the world, much like I am now.
Here I sit though, look at the next set of stairs leading my path upwards. I know where I’ve come from, I know why I haven’t gotten ‘there’ yet, and I’ve known for a while that under just the right conditions I’ll have no choice but to teach my children one of the most important lessons that I’m still learning myself.
Growth happens whether you want it or not sometimes, because there’s simply no other way. In those moments, you have to decide how you want to grow and how you want to remember making that growth happen.
My family needs me in a whole different way now, one that has me shivering with anticipation. I’m honestly more nervous about what I plan to do than at any other point in my career.
I would tell you what my plans for growth are, but I feel like at this point it’s much better to show you. Not as click-bait for a follow, not as a way to get you to buy my services at ReikiReverend.com, but because I simply can’t explain the impact in a way that feels right.
You’ve seen a lot of things like this by now, and I’m not like everyone else, or even who I used to be in the past. I’d rather show you, and everyone else who has been patiently waiting past the “I’m back,” and “more coming soon.”
In fact, I’m not announcing any of my next moves, but you’re all welcome to find out.
Some of you may even be inspired 🙏
