FEAR:
I’ve got it, you’ve got it, everyone faces it at some point. It’s an inevitability that crosses the hearts and minds of every living thing on this planet.
How do you deal with fear? That’s what I’m going to be talking about today.
Fear isn’t one of things ‘little’ things that you can simplify as a speck of dirt on an otherwise clean floor. It’s also not as expansive as a world on the brink of war. These things do not make up fear.
Fear, is what results from these things.
Fear, is only the reaction to a situation or event that is seemingly difficult to manage. When we experience fear, is it because we broke Mom’s favorite dish, or is it because we are anticipating a negative consequence from breaking that dish?
You see, it’s that perception or even plausible knowledge (understanding) of the negative, that causes us to experience fear. It can walk past us on the streets, meet us in the bed sheets, and follow us around for virtually the rest of our lives. In fact, it will if we allow it to.
That is to say if we allow for that fear to be fear by its most primal definition. Fear can be experienced in other ways as well. When you do something amazing for the first time when you think that you’re about to succeed, even when you lay your child down at night after a long day. These ‘fears’ aren’t really scary thoughts at all.
They’re just markers for a transition between where you were in time, to where you want to be or where you will be. So how do we transform fear? How do we turn that force that generally works against us, to work with us?
How do we transform it to BECOME our power?
It’s simple, but you may not believe how simple it is at first. Stop being ‘afraid’ of fear, and learn how to use it to become a better version of self. Instead of taking it as a marker for an imminent obstruction or blockage, begin to see it the other way.
Begin to look at it as a marker, for a transition between where you were in time, to where you want to be or will be.
When I lay my children down for the night, yeah, I’m afraid that they’ll stay up and possibly hurt themselves wandering or rolling around; That I’ll have to stay up with him until he’s ready for bed. But you know what? I use that fear to get motivated.
I tell myself this: “If they do stay up, then I guess my day with them isn’t over yet. I’m just going to have to live with that in the best way I know how, and use the experience to grow stronger in whatever way possible.”
Now for those of you who don’t know, this isn’t something that’s very easy to say to yourself at times. Some days as a parent that bed really calls you, and all you wanna do is sleep.
Have you ever felt like that?
That real desire for sleep that’s so strong? It doesn’t matter how you get there, you just know it’s coming.
That’s the anticipation for a probable outcome. It’s also the second key for transforming your fears into your personal power.
I know, beyond any doubts, that on days like that, my sleep IS gonna come and it WILL be glorious 😊 I also know that my day is gonna be a bit shorter because of the time I spent awake, but that’s not my focus.
On days when life is a bit rougher than normal, my perception of time gets really small.
I’m not focused as much on what’s gonna happen the next day, sometimes not even the next hour.
Only the next few moments coming after the one I’m dealing with.
On the days when it’s really bad, I isolate the minutes or seconds.
There’s a saying in Reiki, “Just for today.” It’s a part of the principles we’re taught to use to our highest benefit. Well, there are times when I modify that to a more minute sense. “Just for this moment.” When I do this, that’s when fear isn’t even something that exists for me.
I know that when one of my children are crying and I need to attend to them, there isn’t anything that’s gonna stop me from doing just that.
At that moment I have NO FEAR compared to an hour from the time when I know I’ll be dead tired, or the next day when the night catches up with me. I’m only concerned with the moment, and at that moment, I KNOW that I don’t even have the time to be afraid.
You don’t need children to apply this knowledge, all you need is the right motivation.
Where is that fear trying to move you away from? Where is it leading you? Finally, where do you want to go versus where that fear is trying to make you go?
At the moment, you may not even have time to think of all of this. Especially if you’re worried about making it to work after being late so that you don’t get fired.
Fear is a construct of our perception of the future. Only by living in the present can we bypass this perception, and if we must perceive the future of that moment, then we do so in a way that aids and assists our immediate priorities.
Thank you all for reading.
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